A bloggers advise on working with PR companies

I’ve been wanting to write this post for a long time. Now that I have transitioned myself mostly out of the blogworld and basically have zero f’s to give, it’s time I share what I really think about working with PR companies.

Before I jump straight to the negative, you should know that there are 2 PR companies I work with, highly recommend and LOVE. One is Fitfluential. They offer awesome products, support and pay is based on what you are truly worth.

SMACK! Media is by far my favorite. They have a fantastic support team-down to earth, they match great products to you and your audience and give you the freedom to use, market and share your love for the product as you wish. A very natural, organic approach – the way IMO marketing should be.


SMACK! won’t send you a pitch for deer antler extract or genetic testing for pain relievers and make you agree to sharing 5 times on all of your social media channels (don’t forget to use our generic #), do a blog post with a minimum of 400 words + 5 high resolution images taken by you, do a giveaway and stand on your head for 83 minutes a day and they’ll pay you $50. Whoopty do. Can’t wait to miss it. Break it down, and all that work translates to about $1.76 an hour.

Then there was that one time a PR company wanted to send me a full workout outfit to take pictures, share on the blog & SM. Wash them and ship them back for FREE. Really?? Oh boy, can’t wait to do all the leg work, share your brand with my loyal and hard earned readership and ship the outfit back to you for free. #NOT

Opps got a little off track there, but really if you are interested in collaborating with a team of professional, folks who are REAL and talk to you like that, with schweet gear, check out SMACK!

Now on to the part where I get real and honest. Keep in mind, this is 100% my opinion. You don’t have to agree with it or like it. That is fine. But after years of navigating this field, I wanted to share my thoughts and hopefully help you understand the way things work. Or should work IMO.

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This morning I opened my email and this is the first thing I read (copied word for word) which in turn inspired me to write this post:

“But before I go any further, a short but super important PSA: PLEASE READ ALL DETAILS AND DELIVERABLES (including dates) before applying. If you apply, we will assume you can participate and meet deadlines, etc. We are receiving far too many applicants who later realize they can’t complete the campaign, sometimes even after products are shipped which is frustrating and burdensome on our generous clients. We work really HARD to bring these opportunities in for you guys (sometimes way too hard) so don’t ruin it by being a bad apple in the bunch. It doesn’t look good on ya….READ details first. Ok, I’ve said my piece, so ithout further adieu, here’s the new opportunity:”

My thoughts on this email: If you hire the right people and pay them what they are worth, a lot of these problems could be avoided. A lot of folks are motivated to earn a couple extra bucks and when the product + audience + blogger + pay align, things tend to work out better.


Along the same lines, here is my advice on dealing with PR companies in general:

  1. Respect your audience. They follow you for a reason, so don’t hawk a product you wouldn’t consider buying with your own hard earned money. Be open to trying new things, just make sure they are a natural, organic fit. Your readership can tell if you truly love the product or are just doing it just because it was sent for free. Can you take me seriously if I came at you guys with some product that you know I don’t use, you would never use, and has now wasted everybody’s time? Like seriously SCB, tell us about your favorite curling iron??
  2. This is business, not personal. Be 100% professional when reaching out and replying.
  3. Work with brands directly. This can be a bit more challenging, but it is hands down the way to go.
  4. Don’t do anything for free. Gosh I despise that “F” word. This is where things can get complicated and you will have to decide if working with a brand is worth your time and effort. Not every brand or PR company is willing to pay cash. For me, if the product is kick ass but they don’t pay, it’s worth it. If the pitch is for “free” boxes of bars, I’ll pass. You have to keep your audience in mind. Don’t take every PR gig that comes your way because you get “free” stuff. I can’t tell you how much “free” crap I have been sent, tried it, hated it, tossed it, and never told you about.
  5. Doing giveaways are fun and great. For the brand you are working with. Not necessarily your brand.
  6. You don’t get what you don’t ask for. In other words, don’t be afraid to reach out to your favorite brands. Again, be professional, find the marketing contact and email them. Don’t leave a comment on on their social media account. It’s tacky and will likely not be replied to. The Marketing Coordinators that work for these companies are professionals. If you come across as a ditsy blogger that has 2 readers, your mom and sister, they will not be open to you.  Act professional and tell them how partnering with you would be beneficial to both your brand and theirs. What can you offer? What are you willing to do? What do you want in return?
  7. They are not doing you a favor by sending you free stuff. Marketers know the power of blog & online influence. Demand what you & your audience are truly worth, not what they say you’re worth. Those same marketers main job is to get the biggest bang for their buck, if they can reach your targeted readers that look, act, and buy like you, then that has worth. Therefore you have value. Don’y underestimate yourself.
  8. Working with brands should be a small part of blogging & SM. Your opinion & recommendations are taken more seriously.


I think collaborating with brands that fit yourself & audience is a fantastic thing and I don’t ever want to discourage you from working with them. Everyone wins with the right partnerships! This isn’t all about making money, it’s about valuing your time, effort and audience. Promoting products & services is more than just snapping a few pictures and talking writing a few enthusiastic lines and posting it, so just be sure you are compensated for all of your effort.

That’s the beauty of blogging. You design your name, brand, what content to write and who you choose to work with. You have 100% control over you little corner of the internet. How freaking cool is that!?

Just wanted to share my perspective from personal experience. Per usual, take what I say with a grain of sea salt.  


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Treating and curing Sesamoiditis

This post is probably not going to appeal to many folks, but I want to share my experiences in dealing with sesamoiditis. I am not a doctor or expert or anything smart like that. There is no Dr. SCB, so take my advise as a grain of sea salt. Just sharing some positive things that are working for me after searching the ‘net and finding a bunch of  Debbie downers and negativity. Sesamoiditis is treatable, curable and no, it’s not the end of the world if you get it.

A little background:

I have had sesamoiditis off and on in both feet for about a year and a half now. Sometimes both feet want to join the party at the same time, and other times they like to trade off being punks. Lovely.

Sure, you can find a lot of information on the internet about it, but I wanted more of a comprehensive understanding of how it develops, why it takes so dang long to heal, and a bunch of other intricate questions. The Type A in me has to understand how things work and why they happen. And yes, this makes my husband crazy in case you are wondering. 😉

The basics:

Sesamoiditis is a form of tendonitis. There are two tiny bones about the size of kernels of corn embedded in tendons under the big toe joint. They are not attached to other bones so they kinda float in tendons. Their primary function is to help raise and lower the big toe with each step.

Because of these bones are weight bearing, they are prone to becoming injured and/or inflamed and tough to heal. We are always using our feet, and the only break they get to repair & heal is while we sleep. Unfortunately healing takes a lot longer than that once they become irritated and inflamed. I have found some ways to help speed healing along and want to share them with you. But first, before we get into what has worked and is currently working for me, you should know a few things:

  • I am not a doctor or anything that comes close to one. These are all based on my personal experience and research. Please do your own research and investigating. These are just tips that will hopefully give you a good start at healing.
  • Do not believe everything you read on the internet. There are some really helpful sites, but I’ve also read a butt ton of sites/threads of Debbie Downers that make me shake my head. It is 100% possible to heal sesamoiditis. I don’t care what anyone else says. I am living proof of it.
  • We are only talking about sesamoiditis. Not a stress fracture, complete fracture or anything else.
  • To completely heal, you MUST be diligent and take healing seriously the entire time. You have to become more stubborn than the injury itself.

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Are you ready to heal some bones?? 

That sounded really awkward uh….good thing I never claimed to act mature.

My symptoms:

  • A lot of pain and stiffness in the ball of foot, big toe and joint. It feels like a pokey ball sticker that won’t come out. <-Technical terms, because we’re classy like that.
  • Unable to bend big toe up while walking. Therefore I walked with a gangsta limp, using the outside of my foot.
  • Swelling and redness especially when warm. For example right after a shower.
  • Symptoms will not go away on their own and get worse with time.


Time reference:

According to my podiatrists (I saw 2 for this) it can take up to one full year to heal.

My response to them: Wanna bet?

I love a good challenge and I knew between my stubborn personality and my super amazing PT ninja, there was no way it was going to take that long. And I was right.

My most recent case and one that I am dealing with right now, was diagnosed on August 31, 2015 and started treatment the following day, September 1st. Since I have tried just about everything under the moon and stars. Heck, my husband even made custom orthotics that work a gazillion times better than the expensive ones my podiatrist gave me. (We’ll get to that soon.) I wanted to share some things that are helping. I will also update you guys as we work through this, kick it’s butt and learn how to prevent it from coming back.


Here are my recommendations:

  • Take sesamoiditis very seriously. If you are not 100% committed to getting better, you won’t. This was learned the hard way on my part.
  • The first thing you need to focus on, is getting the inflammation down.
  • Ice both feet 2-3 times a day for 15-20 minutes. Rest them as much as possible. One of the reasons why it takes so long to heal is because the vessel leading to the sesamoid bones is so tiny. Any inflammation can restrict the blood flow which hinders healing and in worse cases the bones could actually die. Finding this out was enough for me to start taking sesamoiditis a lot more seriously.
  • After icing, elevate your feet above the heart to promote circulation. I did this for about 10 minutes 2-3 times a day. Sometimes I kicked my feet up on the back of the couch while watching tv or chilling out on my phone.
  • Take an anti inflammatory if you can tolerate it right away. I started with Advil for a few days, then asked my doctor for a more natural approach. He recommended turmeric, glucosamine & chondroitin and fish oil. When combined they become an excellent anti inflammatory. After a few days, the glucosamine & chondroitin upset my stomach, so I stopped taking it, but I’m still taking the others and they seem to be working.  
  • Gently massage the areas that are painful and tender to start breaking up scar tissue and bring circulation to the area. Gently stretch the big toe up & down to help with range of motion and relieve stiffness.
  • Calf stretches 2-3 times a day. The calf muscle is connected to the sesamoid tendons, and I have found huge pain relief stretching it out. 
  • Start physical therapy ASAP. This has helped me tremendously. There is no way I would have made the progress I have without it.
  • Find a supportive shoe with a wide toe box. I highly recommend Altra Running shoes. The Torin 1.5 are hands down my favorite, but I also love wearing the Intuition 2.0 at work. I’ve heard really good things about the Hoka One One brand, so maybe look into them as well.
  • Once the injury is stabilized & under control enough to move a bit, get into the pool. I’m not a swimmer, so I took up pool running. It brings down inflammation, increases circulation which flushes out the sesamoid area, helps with range of motion and you feel amazing. I do 30 minutes about 3-4 times a week.
  • We are busy and life moves on with or without pain, we have to keep moving. So you are going to want to sort of “float” the sesamoid area in your shoes. Dancers pads and Dr. Jills gel dancer pads were recommended by my podiatrist, but they actually caused more pain for me. They might work for you though! I also have Morton’s Neuroma which flared up when offsetting pressure to that area. My feet are just a barrel of fun.


  • My husband is very handy and made a pair of orthotics to float the area using a YouTube video, a $10 memory foam mat & some foam glue from Home Depot. I kid you not!! The man is a freaking genius. When I put them in, I started to walk normal and pain free almost right away. Let me know if you would like a tutorial or video on how he made them.
  • Never go to bed with inflamed feet.
  • Never walk barefoot. For me, putting on shoes when I get out of bed was not practical, so I picked up a pair of stiff soled slippers at Target to wear around the house. I didn’t use them to clean or do anything other than to make coffee and sit in my chair which is far better than walking around barefoot.
  • Once you are on the mend, consult your physical therapist about starting a strength training program. Chances are, there might be a muscle imbalance/weakness that caused sesamoiditis. Of course there are other reasons this happens, so try to figure out what the cause was, so you can make changes to prevent it. For me, it was a combination of ‘skinny feet’ &  hip surgery right before Christmas. I never used crutches and walked funky so my feet overcompensated.


My progress one month into treatment:

Right foot, which was the worse one is about 95% healed.

Left foot, which was fine until about 3 weeks ago is about 85% healed.

I met with my podiatrist today to add more padding to my custom orthotics. He LOVED the custom ones Mike made BTW! I wanted to make sure these are going to be a long term solution and he said after getting the custom orthotics dialed in, I should be fine. Crossing my fingers.

I hired a trainer to put together a strength training program for the next 90 days and there’s talk about getting back into RUNNING soon!! This makes my heart so happy but terrifies me at the same time. I’ve been injured for so long my confidence is pretty low. Good thing I love a challenge, right?!

If you have any other questions or tips, please feel free to reach out!! I hope this post gives other sesamoiditis suffers hope. 


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Simple things Monday

You know, all those things that make you happy…..










Yah, you should totally do them!


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The diagnosis and game plan

Yesterday Mike took me to San Francisco and bought me a new foot. Some assembly is required though.


Ha, I only wish that were the case!

In all realness, Mike has been nothing short of incredible. He took the day off work to drive to SF and insure the world that SCB wouldn’t murder anyone in traffic. Also so we could use the carpool lane. Duh. I owe him big time!

We got there extra early to do paperwork and X-Rays. While waiting for the foot and ankle surgeon to come talk with us, I chilled out and enjoyed the warm sunshine. SF is notoriously known for having cold & foggy summers, but it was sunny and 75. So I started singing sunshine and whiskey. Or not.


The diagnosis: Sesamoiditis. 

The prognosis: It can take up to an entire year to heal. #wannabet

The causes:

  • After hip surgery, I walked funky because I never used crutches. Well, my gait has changed so much since then, my feet can’t seem to catch up.
  • I have “skinny foot problems.” Which means I have very little padding on the bottom of my feet which makes them extra sensitive. Mike offered to donate fat from his butt to be injected in my feet. Now that’s love, folks.
  • My new custom orthotics need to be adjusted. The firm part stops just before the big toe joint which is counter productive when you’re dealing with sesamoid flare ups. The big toe joint needs firm support. Luckily it’s quite easy and common to send them back for adjustments, so I’m confident we can get them adjusted. Heck for the amount they charge, they better!


The game plan:

  • The goal right now is to offset pressure from the sesamoid bones so they have a chance to heal. One of the most effective ways to do that is to use dancer pads. I bought a couple reusable gel pairs of Dr Jills foot pads on Amazon.
  • Stretch the achilles, calves & hamstrings. Tight muscles shorten, which contribute to the mechanics of the foot. Stretching will help lengthen those muscles and in turn help alleviate foot pain.
  • Strength train with a focus on hips & glutes. I did a post with pics & descriptions of some of the exercises I like awhile back if you are interested.
  • Get back into the pool. This is something that I used to do all the time and now, well, if we’re being truthful I kinda burned myself out.
  • Find some new exercises or fitness classes I CAN do. Any non foot weight bearing suggestions are very much welcomed.
  • Ice and rest as much as possible.
  • Watch The Girls Next Door with Bam and drink iced coffee. #leduh

While waiting, I saw this “return to running” file and knew I was in the right place. Because one day…


Some things I want to look into:

Maybe try some new to me, non traditional things like bone broth, vitamin B-6, vitamin B-12, Turmeric, Collagen, Glucosamine/Chondroitin and upping vitamin C and magnesium. I know there is no magic pill, but maybe they can help?

Can someone please run for me???????

Who’s on the injured list too?

Anyone ever dealt with sesamoiditis? Please share your experiences, what worked for you, what didn’t etc.


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Sometimes I’m an optimist to a fault

I’m an optimist dang it.

I swear I am. I’m just finding it hard to see the rainbows and lollipops right now.

If you’ve followed SCB for awhile, (thank you for sticking around. You seriously deserve a medal) then you are well aware the struggle is real within the injury world, that is also known as my life.

If you’re new, welcome! I promise to get back to telling lame jokes, cracking on my boys and being a bit more optimistic.

But tonight, I am not. And that’s okay. This is life and sometimes we just have to let ourselves feel crappy for a bit. Then eventually we have to put on pants like an adult or something, snap out of it and decide there is too much life to be lived and move on.

Let’s see if I can make a long story short… Since 2011 I have struggled with chronic tendinitis and sesamoiditis in both feet off and on. Though the right one has definitely the biggest punk.

Over the last year, and especially since hip surgery they have progressively gotten worse. Like, to the point where I can’t walk Bam for 20 minutes without each step becoming more painful. I have to take off my shoes and kick my feet up right when I get home.

In the morning, they are stiff and sore they feel like they are going to crack. After stretching and moving around they loosen up a bit, so I’m happy about that. Ha I am getting so old!!

Instead of writing a book, I’ll share a few highlights:

  • I have seen 4 podiatrists/foot & ankle surgeons over the years. One put me in a boot for 8 weeks last summer for no reason at all, which made the problem worse and also caused a circulatory complication. Kinda funny story about that I mailed his bill back to him with a very forward, yet firm explanation along with facts as to why I refused to pay it. He forgave the debt but stood his ground on his false diagnosis. Whatev.
  • I’m on my 3rd pair of custom orthotics and not even sure if they’re working. That dang money tree can spontaneously appear any day now.
  • 2 physical therapists have been my only source of relief and hope. Even if it doesn’t last long.
  • I haven’t ran consistently in over 2 years because of this & of course the whole hip thing.
  • I miss running so freaking hard.
  • I only wear Altras with high cushion and extra wide toe box. Even though my feet still hurt, these shoes are amazing. I can’t even imagine how worse I’d feel without them.
  • I don’t wear flip flops or heels or walk barefoot or anything fun like that.
  • Recently I stopped seeing my PT. While the treatment worked, it didn’t last long and I was right back in his office within a week. We both agreed it would be wise to get another opinion.
  • I am currently strength training like a champ, to rebuild the hip/quad/hamstrings because one day I WILL be able to walk & run pain free. I have no doubt.
  • Except if you asked me about an hour ago. I was swearing I’d eventually end up in a wheelchair and Mike would “accidently” push me down some stairs into the ocean and sharks would eat me alive. {I hope you are seeing our demented sense of humor here.} :)
  • I have an appointment with a specialist in a couple weeks. My PT recommended her. She is supposed to be the best around. My PT most certainly did not disappoint on the hip surgeon, so I am cautiously optimistic!!

I think that’s about it…

So for this evening, I’m gonna just chill in my comfy sweatpants, watch Netflix and promise myself tomorrow I will get my life together.


Onward & upward.

Anyone else have a chronic injury punk? If so, please share. If not, you are one lucky duck!

Please tell me you’re a Gilmore Girls fan!

Anybody have a couple spare feet in a size 7 just laying around? I don’t even care if they’re old. They just need to work.


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Vacation part 2: Long Beach & Catalina Island

Ahhhh Long Beach, I love you!!

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We’d been to Long Beach back in 2008 and I remembered that I loved it, so I was stoked to go back. Only this time I loved it even more!!

We spent about 3 days wandering around The Pike. We rented beach cruisers and headed out to the lighthouse. I shot a lot of GoPro video, so when I find time, I’ll finish the vacay video up and share it with you guys. It was absolutely incredible.

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We stayed 2 nights on the Queen Mary, enjoyed supper one evening at Chelsea Chowder House which was fantastic! We could tell the Chef is very passionate.

Lots of folks have asked us if staying on the QM was worth it and I’d say go for one night. It was fun walking around, touring the ship and taking in the rich history but looking back, I would have spent an extra night on Catalina Island. Just my 2 cents fo free though.


Now, Catalina Island has my heart!!!!!

Not the boat ride there though. Gurrrr. I can get a little motion sickness in the car, so I took a “less drowsy” Dramamine and it wiped me out for the entire day. But I made the best of it and made sure to enjoy the time we had.

On our way to the freaking Catalina Wine Mixer sponsored by Prestige Worldwide!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #boatsandhoes


We heard people say one night is enough, but do not listen to those people. They lie.


There aren’t very many cars on the island, mostly golf carts and all stop signs. At least I didn’t see a stoplight. So we rented a golf cart for an hour and did the self guided tour. That was one of the best decisions ever!

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After taking a nap at the hotel, which I NEVER do ha, we explored the town on foot.

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And apparently practiced for my new career…

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Keep it real Pony Boy.


Share your summer vacation!! 


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Road Trip to SoCal Part 1; Manhattan, Redondo Beach & Universal Studios

Well, since I renewed the SCB domain, guess I should actually blog. Right!?

I hope you guys are doing well and enjoying the summer. We’re just getting back in the groove of things after a week in SoCal. It was a very special trip for us for reasons I’ll reserve from the blog, but I want to really write this post for Mike & I down the road and to share with you guys.

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We drove down to Manhattan Beach on a Friday, walked around The Strand, which is a long paved trail next to the beach. So rad! Then we went to a brewery for dinner and walked some more. I really enjoyed taking in the SoCal beach lyfe. Chicks in bikinis riding beach cruisers to dinner from the beach, flip flops with sand caked on them, local pups chilling outside restaurants waiting for their owners and beautiful, WARM sunrises & sunsets. Ahhhh those were so dang rad. Back in Monterey we have an Indian Summer so there’s usually a lot of fog in the morning & evenings during the summer so catching one is hit or miss.

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The next morning we met up with Emily & her ma for a walk along The Strand again. It never gets old!

We hung out the whole day. She showed us around her hood, favorite surf shop, brewery (seeing a trend?), where to get the best iced coffee in town and then to her house to chill out for a bit.


While she made banana bread, we jacked her longboard and tried not to face plant or break any hips. Thankfully our mission was a success.


We ended the evening with a picnic at the park watching the sunset. Gosh it was such an awesome day with fantastic peeps.

I’ll skip over how we didn’t book a hotel room in LA and went from Beverly Hills to staying at a hotel in Bakersfield and go straight to Universal Studios.


We’d been a few times before, but it’s always fun to check out the latest stuff. We watched a mini Shrek in 4D movie clip which was really cool. They gave us 3D glasses and our seats moved with some of the scenes so it kind feels like you’re inside the movie.


We went on a Sunday in the middle of summer so you can guess it was packed. If you go, I highly recommend kicking out the extra bucks for the front of the line pass. They are limited each day, so make sure you snag one early. Our cheap butts suffered through long lines, but it was still a good time.

The backlot tour was probably my second fav, next to Shrek.

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This is where they filmed some of the scenes from Back To The Future. Neat-o.

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Set from The Grinch.

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I forget which movie this set was from, but it’s a plane crash site.

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Not sure if I told you guys, but I freaking LOVE Dispicable Me, so of course I had to be a goofball and snap a pic with Gru.

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Well crap, thought I could fit the whole trip into one post, but it’s getting kinda long. I’ll do another post with the rest of the trip which includes Catalina Island(!)

Any other Dispicable Me fans?

Where did you vacation at this summer?  Or did anyone do a staycation? 


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Editing GoPro images with Snapseed & MIX apps

I’m in love with the GoPro and I don’t care who knows it. <- Said in The Elf voice realllllly loud.

A few months ago Mike & I bought a GoPro Hero 4 Silver partly as an anniversary gift to ourselves and partly to use on our upcoming road trip.

At first I wasn’t exactly sure if I liked it. I mean, my Samsung S5 takes some pretty rad pictures and video.

Then I searched Google and YouTube for tips & tricks and to see how other folks are using their GoPro. Holy smokes between that, and trying it out underwater, was all I needed to fall in love with this pocket size device.


Then I read about a couple photo editing apps, which are now my current favorite photo editing apps;

Snapseed and MIX.

These apps can be used with any photo, not just GoPro, so literally anyone can turn a ho hum “good” photo to bright colorful life, full of texture and depth. #TWSS

Here is an unedited picture the GoPro snapped of Bam at the beach on a foggy evening.


I used the HDR filter in Snapseed to add some color and depth. Then used the SKY filter in MIX to add a bit more color in the background. To get even more color & depth you can also layer a Instagram filter at the end. Whatever makes YOU happy.


Same thing for these below.









Easy peasy, right?

Of course the original photo is just fine too. But these days, I’m digging lots of color and depth. To each their own.

The settings in MIX are highly customizable. You can use their filters or create your own and save it. Plus both apps are FREE. Like 5 finger discount free. Yah.

Also in case you’re interested, to get some schweet action shots, I use the time lapse setting on the GoPro and set it to snap a picture every half second.

Now, I’m off to get a bigger SD card for this dang GoPro. The obsession continues…

What are your current favorite photo editing apps?

GoPro users, any neat-o tips?


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Didn’t know how much I needed to hear that

Sometimes you need to have a conversation with someone who is just so, uplifting.

Today I was frustrated and a bit grumpy about a bunch of things. Nothing big, just a bunch of small, first world problems that added up and were making me unhappy. Dang it, I was having a really awesome week and it really bummed me out to feel this way. Which of course made things worse. Figures, right? Ha!

In the middle of all this, I had a conversation with a friend who listened to me. Let me vent, didn’t try to come up with a solution right away. He just listened as I went on and on about all these little insignificant things that were bugging me.

When I was done rambling, his words were nothing groundbreaking, but so perfect. He told me that I was allowing things & people to get to me. I’m in control over how I feel and I have the ability change it.

I already knew this, but didn’t realize how much I needed to hear those words.


He reminded me that this feeling is completely normal and will pass.

Then somehow our conversation transitioned to future dreams. He looks forward to the day he gets to sit down over coffee at 6am with a few close business partners who share the same passions and collaborate. They will get to utilize their creativity, plan and dream really freaking big. Even with a new set of problems and challenges, the freedom that comes with it will be so awesome and rewarding.

His passion is so inspiring. Our 10 minute conversation was a great reminder to surround ourselves with those who share the same passions and let the positive energy and excitement feed off one another.

It also allowed me to put things back into perspective. Sometimes I allow myself to get sucked into the politics & tit for tat games of an environment without even realizing it. I have mad respect for folks who don’t sugarcoat things and aren’t afraid to call me out.

Dream really freaking BIG friends. So big, it scares the crap out of you.


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Happiness is the highest level of success

Lately I’ve been thinking about living up to my potential versus being happy right where I’m at. Do I really have to choose between the two? Should I want to take on more at the cost of happiness because that’s what we’re supposed to do?

I absolutely love my job. There is no other job or position I’d rather do than what I’m doing right now. If I retire as a bartender at Pebble Beach, that would be just fine with me. Things may change some day, but for now, that’s what I feel.

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With that said, recently I’ve been feeling like I’m not living up to my potential. It’s so funny and weird because my job is fulfilling and makes me happy. I get to bartend at a prestigious golf course, help provide an experience of a lifetime, and make folks from all over the world happy. Meeting celebs & high profile peeps is a fun perk too. Well, when I actually recognize them. Ha!

I am passionate about my job. I truly want every single guest I come in contact with to have an exceptional experience. I have a system down. From driving the course backwards, being a chameleon to blend in with different personalities, how to mix drinks and keep the pace of play moving, to the three questions I ask almost everyone. Just in case you’re wondering they are:

1) How’s your game?

2) Where are you from?

3) Is this your first time playing Pebble?

I will also remind them to watch out for the birds, because they work for me. Those punks steal food, wallets, keys, even a Rolex watch once which is a legend around the course, to whatever they can get their beaks around. They even know how to open zippers. Seriously, somewhere in  birdland, a bird  has a nest full of really cool stuff. And I wanna be his friend.

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Pic: 7th hole

Inevitably the short conversation leads to a chuckle and some good luck wishes for and exceptional experience playing 7. (Our signature hole that is probably on a gazillion bucket lists)

As you can see, I love what I do. I often drive the course and think, wow, they pay me to come here and do this. #mindblown But let’s circle back to the potential side of how I’m feeling lately.

After doing some soul searching aka talking to Mike about it over coffee, the truth is, I am not living up to my potential and I’m not being challenged.

I LOVE a good challenge and there is still some work to do and things to perfect, but overall I feel like things are kinda stagnant lately. I have the capability to grow within the company. I just don’t have the desire to. I’m happy, so why not leave well enough alone. Ya feel me? And now the 23 year old Jacqueline is cringing. Ha!


It’s ingrained in us to work hard, do more, get a college education, climb the ladder, strive for more, keep going, etc. Those are all good and awesome, but you know what? I truly believe that happiness is far more important than meeting or exceeding your potential. I mean, we are exchanging minutes of our lives at a job. Take a minute and let that sink in.

It’s a huge deal.

I’m not willing to exchange happiness for a prestigious title behind my name. Having bartender or beer chick is fine by me. Maybe this theory isn’t for everyone, but it’s definitely for me. And I’m pretty dang content with it.

Please feel free to share your thoughts!!


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