I have pimples too…

Good morning everyone!!  Another Monday, my favorite day of the week.  A new beginning.

Yesterday a reader left a comment on my blog saying that I offended her.  She felt the need to tell me that I have no idea the struggles of most Americans.

Mike is a disabled Veteran with a Purple Heart that laces up his boots and works with his hands every day. 

He lost his advertising/marketing job in 2008 due to the economy.  He spent a very short time looking for work in the same field, but we both knew that that was a dead end.  We lived in a small house (697 square feet) in a little town in the Central Valley of California.

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Yes, that was our house just 3 years ago.

I was working at Starbucks as a part time Barista.  We decided that he was going to start a new career at the age of 41.  He went to the unemployment office and talked to the Veterans rep, where he learned about a program that was 10 weeks long.  If/when completed, the only guarantee was nothing more than a job interview.  Of over 700 applicants Mike was 1 of 26 who were accepted.  He drove 50 miles one way every day to sit in a classroom for 8 hours, 5 days a week for 10 weeks. He was the 2nd oldest in the class.

This is Mike when facing roadblocks…He doesn’t go around, over or under, he crashes through!

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After graduating from the program and going to that promised interview, he didn’t get the job.  I’ve never seen him so focused on any thing before. He was determined to take care of us.  So in the meantime, he took a job as a cross country truck driver and was gone for about 2 weeks at a time, all the time knowing there would be a chance at another interview, it was just a matter of time. He drove truck for almost a year.

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That interview came in 2011, where all of his hard work and determination paid off.  He started at the bottom, and lived in a rented room, while I stayed back home.  We lived like that for 4 months until I moved to San Mateo, then Mountain View, and now Monterey.

Why do I feel the need to tell you all this?  Mike said yesterday that when he is asked about his success he doesn’t feel as though he has succeeded.  He is always looking for more.  He sometimes goes to work at 7:30 AM and gets home at 2:00 AM the next morning, and he loves every minute of it.

The man works and I am very happy to take care of everything else so he can focus 100% on the highly dangerous job he not only loves, but pours his heart + soul into.

There are no freebies, no help from anyone or the government.  This is 100% pure hard work, dedication and the drive to become something better than we were the day before.  We don’t believe in luck.  And while we’re on the subject, since when did success become offensive?  

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The comment said that I have too much time and money on my hands. Well, going to a blog, reading a post, getting offended, and writing a comment about how you’re gonna unsubscribe is the epitome of having too much time on your hands.  As for money, maybe I do.  But we have had struggles and we still remember them.  We feel that we are now being rewarded for all of the hard work WE put in.

Blogging is one dimensional.  This is my personal blog and no one’s forcing you to come read it every day.  You see only the parts of our lives I choose to show you. I don’t feel the need to tell you all of the charities we donate to or the places I volunteer my time at, because that’s just private  

I’m not showing you my pimples……..

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84 Comments on “I have pimples too…

  1. Very well written!! There is always going to be someone negative out there. You do a great job on your blog and I look forward to reading it every day. Keep up the great work.

  2. Relatively new reader, and hooked on your blog! After reading blogs for about a year, I will never understand the negativity that comes from people, and why they bother being angry at someone they don’t even know. Thanks to your husband for his service, thanks for your inspiring and fun blog, keep living your life girl!

  3. People are mean. I look forward to reding your blog everyday. Even IF I don’t have what you do. Your struggles and successes are YOURS. She’s mean. F her

  4. Her comment on your last post kind of made me laugh…maybe I’m a bad person…but I’ve totally thought that before. I swear, I avoid going to Target/TJ’s, etc to shop because I can’t believe how incredibly packed it constantly is! Every time I have the rare occasion to go to a coffee shop on a day off, I can’t believe how many people are there at 10 a.m on a random Wednesday. It amazes me! So, yes, I’ve totally thought to myself “And they say the economy is bad” My other thought is what would it be like if the economy were good? I don’t think the parking lots could hold any more shoppers.

    Anyway, kudos to you for writing this and sharing your struggles. Huge kudos to your husband who took a difficult situation and made it work. Success is about hard work. Nothing good ever comes easy.

  5. You already know how much I love you….now I love you AND Mike even more! We’re in a similar situation with Gary injuring himself, getting laid off, moving in with my folks and going back to school…you know the deets. Any man who has to switch careers midlife and does it with his head held high is a winner in my book!
    People who have time to leave negative comments are super losers…if you don’t like a blog, don’t read it!

  6. First off, I say this from a sisterly point of view. I couldn’t hate you if I tried. This is your blog, your thoughts and you own them well. Her original comment was about a statement that you made in your post. I didn’t see her as a bully at all. She just didn’t like it. Fair enough. Her follow-up comments were based on not knowing you at all, but that is on her, not you.

    I honestly don’t believe that you needed to defend yourself regarding her subsequent statements. Your statement in the original post was a little rough around the edges. That is my opinion and I own that one. 😀

    You know who you are, and you know how you got there. It is nobody’s business how you spend your income or how much you make. This kind of thing will come up over and over in life. As someone who has almost 15 years on you, please know that the judging eventually stops as people settle into their older (but never boring!) selves. That said, it is reasonable to reflect and think about stuff as it comes up, and maybe make decisions differently in the future.

    Now, don’t you dare defend yourself and write anything about what I just said. You’ve got this. I think you are all kinds of fun even when we have very little in common. You have no need to feel defensive. This is your story. You get to tell it. -Stacy

  7. I enjoyed you sharing your story. It is inspiring to see a hard work ethic pay off and to see good people succeed. However, I would’ve loved this post just as much (if not more) if it wasn’t shared in spite of a commenter. We’ve seen glimpses into your life that show you and Mike are hard workers, and I’ve never doubted that, but people are always going to make assumptions based on the small percentage of your sunny life that you share. I just feel you could have stepped forward and shared this without giving attention to a negative situation. I understand your motives, just wanted to share my perspective. Thanks for sharing!

    • I took that into consideration while thinking about my response. I really appreciate comment. Thank you for sharing your thoughts in a classy, respectful way. 🙂

  8. Great job! I’m sorry people are so mean! For some reason I was thinking Mike was a doctor.

  9. so well written and I love that quote “you hate on my success like we don’t have the same 24 hours” <- SO TRUE! You rock.

  10. You go girl. I love hearing your story and where you came from. I get very offended when people think “I’ve got it made.” I am very very blessed to be where I am and I worked dang hard to get here too. A quarter of my income last year went to student loan debt. It’s all about the choices you make and what you make of everything. I agree with some of the other posts that you don’t have to defend yourself but at the same time it’s just annoying right?! I love you and your blog! If you ever were to offend me (I don’t see that ever happening), I’d just look past it and read on. NBD!

  11. LOVE LOVE LOVE! I get really annoyed, no wait, pissed, when people judge me without knowing the FULL story. This is true for real life and my blog life. I choose to keep certain things out of my blog because some things are personal. I had a lady leave a comment basically implying that I’m a little slutty, making poor choices, and I should have a stronger head on my shoulders, because I did a silly poll asking readers to vote for a dress that I wanted to surprise my boyfriend with. It really upset me, but then I realized this lady was whack-a-doodle and knew NOTHING about me. What made me realize this was when I told friends and family about the comment and all they did was laugh at how conservatively I dress and how crazy this lady is. And Mike’s story- just wow. That’s hard work and dedication. You both should be proud. Completely agree that you should not be ashamed of YOUR hard work.

  12. Sad that someone felt the need to leave something negative. Why not just move along. I believe you addressed it well. Congrats to you and your husband for making your life what you want. Those that hate are those that are unwilling to do whatever it takes to make their dreams come true and would rather blame the world.

  13. Wow. Some people. I love your blog. I love your pictures. I love your stories. And I love your dog. Heh, I hope that person chokes on a cupcake. 😀

  14. I am so sorry that you had to deal with negativity from a commenter but even more sorry that you felt the need to defend yourself. As was already said so elequently, this blog is your space to tell your story as you choose to see fit. Your personal life outside of what you choose to share is nobody’s business but your own. Thank you for sharing yourself and your life with us and a huge “Thank You” to Mike for his service.

    • On behalf of Mike, you’re welcome. 🙂
      I didn’t feel the need to defend myself, I thought it would be an opportunity to share a little more about us as well as setting the record straight. Thanks so much for reading!

  15. GO MIKE !!! 😀 good for you guys, Mike seems like a really kewl hubby and a very funny guy to hang out with, thank you for serving this country Mike :).
    You said it well and for the ones that can’t handle it i got something…. Bucket up Buttercup !!! 😀 ( sorry i like saying that lol )

  16. I often read this blog and think how jealous I am of the life you live, but it’s been clear to me that you feel just as lucky to live it. You never seem to boast or brag or judge people for not being able to live like you do, and it’s funny to me that someone else thinks they should be able to judge you simply because you’re happy. You’re right, that reader clearly has too much time on her hands and is obviously pretty unhappy to think it’s worth her time to do that. We all have shotty parts of our lives, but I like that you mainly share the happy parts because it shows you choose to focus on those things. (That being said, I’d happily read about the not-so-awesome parts if you ever posted about them!) Thanks for being awesome!

    • Totally agree. We are far from being rich or having a mansion or whatever others perception of us might be. I think sometimes people correlate genuine happiness = money. Not the case over here at all.
      When you become genuinely happy with your life, things fall into place no matter how small the house you live in, the kind of car you drive or whatever. We don’t take all of this stuff with us when we go, so it doesn’t matter. Thanks for reading, I hope you have a wonderful day!

    • As soon as I at first left a comment I clicked on the Notify me when new comments are added checkbox and cuerrntly every time a remark is added I get 4 messages with the exact same comment.

  17. YOU.ARE. AWESOME. No other comment needed. Stay true to you and keep on blogging. 🙂

    PS-I made a post 🙂

  18. I still enjoy your blog, and I totally appreciate you sharing this story.

    I think the person who made the comment, who was offensive in her own right, should have taken a step back. But I will admit, when I saw that comment about “crying about the economy” I was like “whoa” and I’ll admit, it stung a little. I’m not super open about this on my blog, but I worked as a barista myself because I couldn’t find a job after grad school for way, way too long. I literally cried all the time when I would go to job interview after interview in my field, and would get rejections for what seemed like the dumbest reasons. I’m gainfully employed now, and am SO enjoying blogging additionally, but that comment hurt my feelings a little too, and I hope you might understand why.

    • I thought my sarcasm wouldn’t have to be explained, meaning there’s no way I could judge the economy by one restaurant. There was no intention to offend anyone. You have an incredible job and I’m sure you are perfect for it. Thanks so much for reading!

  19. I looove hearing back stories! It’s so neat to see where you came from and where you are now. And a Purple Heart?? I can’t imagine what Mike went through to get that.
    I try to think about a persons intent before being offended by a comment. Just knowing you strictly from your writing, I truly don’t think you would purposely try to hurt anyone. Have I seen you stand up for what you believe? Yes. Intentionally hurt someone’s feelings? No.
    Also, I felt no need to spend any minutes of my day yesterday responding to her comment to me 🙂

  20. Ever since reading that mean comment yesterday I have been looking forward to reading what you had to say today. I don’t think that you could have handled this in a more respectable way. Thank you so much for sharing your story! You and Mike are an inspiration – as a newlywed money is definitely an issue and it is always great to hear about people who worked really hard and made it through the rough times! 🙂 You guys rock!

    • Girl, we’ve been there and still have some tough times. I wish you + your hubs the best. I know you’ll do great. Don’t you ever give up!

  21. Ummmm love this!!! I know how hard it is easy dealing with people judging you off what you write. You don’t see the whole person from a blog. I get this all the time too, sometimes you just have to realize what you’ve worked for and who cares what other people say – F them. The people that have nothing better to do than sit around and hate on other people aren’t really the people who matter… YOU ROCK!

  22. This post is very eloquently done. BUT I have to say you don’t owe any of us any explanation as to how you ended up where you are now. Although it was nice to read your story, I truly love the glimpses you give us. That is what they are though, glimpses, people should be smart enough to know your whole life isn’t what you blog about. This is just a small piece of a big puzzle. And if that twit read everyday she would know that just a few days ago you and mike paid for a little old lady’s nails and that was the sweetest thing I read in a long while! Love you!

  23. Oh my friend….I wish I was there to hug you and tell you how much you have helped me by posting your positive pictures and amazing views. I look forward to your instagram photos of Bam running the beach…especially when it’s a blizzard outside my windows. You and Mike have every right to celebrate your successes…and even if you hadn’t had the hardships you had mentioned….everyone has a back story…and deserves only good karma!

    If that reader wants to unsubscribe….all the better….you do not need that negativity to be part of your life! You (and Mike and Bam) deserve every once of sunshine and hope and fun and positivity that can shine your way.

    Just know that for every one person who posts something to you like that reader…..you have thousands that are so happy to have you and your blog in their lives!

    <3

  24. Oh my word thank you so much for sharing. I’m sure you felt vulnerable putting all that out there – that was really brave! I’ve been struggling economically for awhile but I’m working hard (sometimes 14-15 hr days) and am hopeful one day I can write a post like this! Your husband is truly an inspiration, and I thank him for the service to our country.

  25. Thank you for this post. I have been following you for awhile now, but only now felt compelled to say hi!

    In this crazy world it’s hard to remember that everyone is facing their own battle no matter how successful and shiny they look on the outside. Blogs are one dimensional and they usually focus on the good, the fun, not the ugly. Thank you for sharing your story. My husband and I are both working our butts off right now to hopefully one day get ahead, and not have to worry so much about money and the day-to-day grind.

    Keep being you! You guys have worked too hard to let others get you down on your own success.

    Namaste.

  26. I read that comment yesterday and couldn’t believe it. I don’t think you should ever have to defend yourself on your blog. Huge kudos to Mike and to you for working hard for what you have!

  27. As you probably know already a lot of bloggers are perceived as not having “real jobs.” Ad to that the fact that you live on the coast in California and you have the makings of a crock pot of jealousy and resentment from the general population at large. Blogs are our personal journal or oped letters with a twist…we attach our personal pictures to them and viola instant target practice for the critics. We are afterall a mean girl society in this country. Just ask Sarah Jessica Parker.

    That being said there are still an awful lot of people out of work out there. I got friends who got laid off in 2008 who would consider a part time job at Starbucks a gift from the gods. They lost their jobs, their homes, some even had to give up their pets. It is still pretty rough out there even in the land of milk and honey known as California.

    Most likely your post struck a nerve. It happens. Welcome to the internet folks. Buckle up because it can be a bumpy ride for bloggers and readers alike.

    Anyway I enjoy your posts and Bam’s adorable pics.

    C
    90lbslater

  28. All I can say is, well said! My husband and I have worked hard the past 35 years of marriage and we have received the same kind of comments about our success. It’s easy for people to cast stones especially when they lack the proper information. All that matters is that you and your husband are happy with who you are and where you are heading.

  29. You definitely are a highlight to my day! Keep up the honesty & wonderfulness that you offer. It is appreciated by many.

  30. I just found your blog for the first time yesterday and I was hooked, I spent at least an hour reading through some of the old posts. I was thinking right before I found your blog how hard it can be to find likable and readable bloggers and then bam, I started reading all your great stories 🙂 I love how you seem way more humble and down to earth than some of viewpoints I’ve read on blogs over the years and think that commenter was way off base. Hope you’re having a good day!

    Laura

  31. Good for you! You should never apologize for hard work. I listen to dave Ramsey often and he just talked about that last week. How people feel like they deserve things and are entitled so they make others who are successful feel guilty for what they achieve. If you husband works hard and had long hours, that’s not only hard on him, that’s hard on you and your marriage. You both work hard and you should not apologize for that.

  32. “Hatin’ is the product of greatness.” Whenever anyone achieves something great, someone will come out and hate on that person (human nature?? I dunno). I think you’re great! And that’s fine if that reader decided to unsubscribe. No need for negativity here, yeah?

  33. I look forward to reading your blog every single day. I am learning quickly that the social media world can be very rewarding but also very cruel all at the same time. Your loyal readers love you for who you are and for what you put out on your blog. I always have to wonder why the people who are so offended take the time to read and comment. Anyway, I think you freaking rock and you and your husband should be very proud of what you have and what you have accomplished. Hard work pays off and nobody can knock you for that. Keep on keeping on. <3

  34. Love your blog, keep doing what your doing! I enjoy all your ocean, beach, Bam pictures. It helps me escape the harsh realities of the Canadian winters. It’s unfortunate that people aren’t happy with their own lives.

  35. I love your blog too and look forward to reading it everyday. I am in need of some advice and I trust your recommendations…I am looking for a foam roller, I don’t have one and have never used one. Is there a certain brand/size that is best? Thanks for the help…you have me hooked on Mizuno’s and Pro Compression. Have a great day!!!

  36. Love to hear about how you guys pushed through the tough times and are now reaping the benefits of hard work and determination (even if you are sharing because of some turd trying to make you feel guilty). Keep it up, lady! (And thanks to Mike for his service).

  37. I love this post. Thank you for sharing! Good things come to people who do hard. Kudos to you and your husband! I’m a college student currently and this post gave me inspiration.

    • You have the control over the direction of your life. With your drive, you will go a long way. Thanks for reading!

  38. Jacquelyn, it’s hard to ignore a harsh criticism sometimes. I’m glad you stood up for yourself! You didn’t have to share what you did, but you did an eloquent job of making your point. I don’t understand people sometimes. If you don’t like what you’re reading on a blog, DON’T READ IT!

  39. haters gonna hate. Seriously- people who sit around bashing others, judging without knowing, and spending their time trying to make other feel inferior… well those are the people who should turn right around and look in the damn mirror. They judge you without knowing everything, but then claim that you are the one in the wrong? Seriously, people need to get a life. If your only reason for reading something is to snark about it, maybe they need to go on a quest to make their own lives happy because they are probably pretty miserable.

  40. WELL SAID! I don’t understand where all the negativity comes from sometimes! Good for you two for working your asses off to get to where you are today! The rest of us love you and LOVE hearing about your starbucks and Bam addictions, they never get old! 🙂

  41. Another Laura is responding, but I hope that the posters here will forgive me if I’m a little partial but you see, I KNOW what sacrifices and difficulties these kids have faced. Sorry, did I say ‘kids?’ Well, I have the right since Mike is my beloved oldest son and I couldn’t love his wife, Jacqueline, more than if she was my own daughter. Everything she wrote in her response is absolutely true and that photo of their home is truly where they lived a few years ago. Am I proud of them? You betcha! And I would also be proud of anyone else who pulled themselves up by their bootstraps and refused to let defeat enter into their lifestyle or vocabulary. I don’t understand this new way of thinking where successful people, who worked hard to achieve something more, are considered the bad guys now. Maybe I’m just old fashioned, but when I grew up, we didn’t apply for a job from the poorest family in town. They were in the same line, as we were, applying for a job from the ones who had already achieved success. It was just common sense and what this country used to have a whole lot more of.

  42. This post made my heart hurt and smile at the same time. You guys have pushed through some tough stuff. Good for you for sticking up for your family — I will never understand people’s need to criticize publicly someone’s blog, idea or life. If you don’t like something about it, well then just move along, right? I don’t believe in luck either — good things to those who work their asses off. Thanks for that little reminder, Jacqueline <3 Keep it up, girl!

  43. Good for you for speaking up and taking a stance against negativity! I think this person just doesn’t get you! I find your blog very entertaining and feel like I could really sit down and hang w/ you b/c you are funny, honest, and put yourself out there w/o seeming like you are untouchable! You acknowledge your flaws and embrace your quirks and never seem to have any “airs” about you! I love that about you! I mean you are gorgeous and have a rocking body-you could come off totally stuck on yourself, but I don’t get that at all! I can count on you for a smile when I check in w/ your blog- I don’t comment often but felt compelled to when I read this entry! Keep on keepin’ on girl and spread your joy in your corner of cyberspace!

  44. Wow, this was awesome! You didn’t force that reader to read your blog, she came and read by choice! I love the quote about hating on success. I needed to read that quote. I’ve been having a case of success guilt (is that a thing?) lately but why should I feel guilty about all the hard work my husband and I do?? Thanks for sharing!!

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