Updated on April 2, 2014
That 2 letter word can be powerful. It can also be freeing and empowering. Well unless it was said to a marriage proposal or something pretty important, in which case I recommend you run far, far away.
Look, we tend to reluctantly agree to do things we really don’t want to or have the time for.
I don’t consider myself a “yes” person or people pleaser, but sometimes I find myself committing to something I really don’t want to do. Before I even realize what’s going on, I’ve already said yes.
A while back I was offered a promotion. More hours, working uber cool events, more scrilla. I mean, who doesn’t need a couple extra duckets? Bill Gate’s and the like, you are not allowed to comment on this.
Without really thinking it through, I said yes.
The more I thought about it, the more it didn’t make sense. I’d miss out on more time with my favorite dude, have to work nights and we all know after 8pm this grandma has to bust out toothpicks to hold up her eyelids up. Plus I’d be inside and large crowds are not really my thing. I’m much happier being outside with the boys.
So I graciously declined and have been insanely happy with my decision ever since. There were no hard feelings and I think I even earned a little more respect from my boss. I know my strengths, I know what I’m good at, I know my priorities, I know I am right where I need to be. And I know that position was not a good fit for me or my family. And that’s 100% okay.
The point of the story is to encourage you to say no a little more often. Don’t commit to something big without thinking it through or out of obligation or “feelings.” Screw feelings, do what is best for you and your family. Period.
Saying no will free up more time to:
- Spend with your family
- Take care of errands
- Get ahead on another project
- Go to lunch with a friend or your other half
- Take the pup for a nice long walk
- Hit up the grocery store
- Get a pedicure
- Drink coffee
- Do nothing at all
It’s YOUR time, you get to choose how it’s spent and what it’s worth. Do not feel bad or guilty about it. If others are offended with your decisions, that’s their problem. Not yours.
I think you will feel so empowered by that two letter word, you might want to use it more often. And you should.
Feel free to share your thoughts on this.
What are some things you need to start saying no to?