8 years ago today I married my cowboy.  He signed a paperwork that said I can harass him for the rest of his life.


I have no secrets to offer you on how to make a marriage work or last.  I mean 8 years is like 800 gazillion years in Hollywood.  We prefer to live a simple uncomplicated little life, have fun and make fun of each other.

  • I think the #1 thing we strongly agree on is to not control each other.  We are both strong willed, stubborn,
  • It get’s better every year.  I think a lot of it is because we pick + choose which hills we’re going to die on, drink a lot of coffee together and refuse to grow up.  Though I bet the boy would add a Glenlivet scotch on the rocks can never hurt.


  • We are our biggest fans.  He knows I’ll support him and he does the same for me.  I let him {and very much prefer it} make all of the major life decisions. He is calculated, levelheaded and not afraid of taking risks.  I always roll with his decisions, sometimes not so happily because I’m a chicken when it comes to risk taking.  I’m more of the let’s play it safe type.  Turns out he makes some pretty dang great life decisions.  This boy get’s all of the credit for this incredibly fulfilling life we live, no doubt.
  • If it’s important to you, it’s important to me.  Always.  Even when getting up at the butt crack of dawn to race.  He’s there with a camera + smile to cheer me on.


  • Take interest in their hobbies.  You might dig them too.  He’s the reason I love to throw lead down range and became a gun owner.  I have never in my life felt more safe + confident taking care of myself than I do today.

PicMonkey Collage

  • 8 years later he still plays in the mud and chases after me. <3


  • Get a king size bed.  We had a queen for the first 6 years, I always felt like it was too small. Now we have the room to spread out. Lets face it, our marriage is better now because I’m well rested.
  • I will never admit this to him, but I like it he puts me in my place. I sometimes act like irrational woman, I know shocker. He lets me go for awhile hoping I will see it for myself. Then he will tell me to cut it out when I don’t. A few weeks ago, I was irritable and hormonal. He just looked at me and said “You need to go for a run!”  Smart Man.

How long have you been married?

What advice would you give to other couples just starting out?

What makes you happy in a relationship?


32 Comments on “8

  1. I love you too babe. I look forward to spending the rest of my life with you.

    I will be sure to put you in your place more from now on. God knows you need it! Lol

  2. AWW !!! Happy Wedding Anniversary :), you guys make the cutest couple and i love seeing your pictures.
    I have been married for 9 , it will be 10 this June and we have been together for 11 years/12 in August hehe. I can’t give any advice more than just support each other and never go to bed mad a each other but other than that i got no clue.

  3. Congrats on the ocho. We’ll be married 14 years in June and my only advice is that every marriage is different and to find what works for YOU (and your spouse, of course)

  4. Happy anniversary #8!!!
    We will celebrate 18 years on May 25 and I can truly say that our lives have gotten better every year!!

  5. Love the advice and love you show for your hubs. I’m getting married June 6, so I’m excited to see what’s in store for us to hang out forever

  6. Happy Anniversary you guys!
    Gary & I will hit 9 years of wedded bliss in June and will be together 14 years at that point.
    Every year it gets better & much easier. I think it’s because Gary has realized that I’m crazy & that can’t be changed. 😉

  7. 18 yrs and counting here- advice: don’t take life too seriously- all that serious grown up nonsense will happen- just don’t sweat the small stuff-
    What makes me happy- my husband is my BFF and bonus he cooks for me

  8. Happy Anniversary! I love hearing about you and your husbands interaction/jokes/excursions. Its easy to tell you two are still very in love after 8 years! My husband and I have been married for a year and a half and man has that time flew! We have our ups and downs like most couples (we’ve been together for almost 8 years with dating) but what keeps us strong is our faith. And that he always makes me laugh. That boy is weird, but we have fallen into mutual weirdness 🙂

  9. Happy Anniversary. Andy and I have been married for 19 years. My advice is to laugh a lot, and marriage therapy is always there if you need it. 😀

  10. Happy Anniversary!! It’ll be 4 in June for me and my “Farmer”!! Love and respect goes a long way.

  11. Aww Happy Anniversary!! We have been together for 9 years but married for almost 3! I 100% agree with the king size bed thing – we got one about a year ago and it was the best investment EVER!

  12. Happy Anniversary!! I loved all this advice… except the king bed one. J and I actually hate sleeping in king beds because we get too far apart. Maybe we’re just clingy. 🙂

  13. About to get married in a little under two months! Very excited, and I love all of your advice! Congrats to you guys 🙂

  14. Happy Anniversary! Here’s to a lifetime of happiness! I love that you are so real and down to earth, seems that you always have fun and really enjoy each other! Congrats!,

  15. I have yet to be married but been dating my sweetheart for almost 4 years. What I find works is be giving him his alone/guy time even if it means sacrificing some of “our” time.

  16. Happy Anniversary!!!!! You guys are so awesome. We need to do a virtual double date 🙂 This August will be 16 years for us. I’m with you DO NOT control your spouse. I wouldn’t want it done to me so I don’t do it to him. Support your spouses hobbies even if you don’t personally enjoy them. My husband is very into cars and I’m Meh on them but I love to see him get excited about gearhead stuff 🙂 As for what makes me happy in a relationship spending good old quality time together. It’s the best!!!!!

  17. LOL….I just read Mike’s comment. I think the two of you are adorable!! Happy Happy Anniversary….I hope you have so many more amazing years to make memories and support eachother.

    I just showed my BF (who is a cop) the pic of you shooting and said “You need to teach me this so when I go visit SC, we can shoot together.” We have learned, over 5 years, that having our own space is equally as important as our together time.


  18. We have been married 35 years! Communication is very important and being supportive of each other’s interests helps!

  19. Happy Anniversary! I love this post!! I’m married a whopping 5 months so I don’t have much advice to share quite yet… although we did beat Kim Kardashian’s 72 days so maybe we have something to teach her at least?

  20. Belated congratulations you two. You make it look easy (and fun!). So much so, that I can’t come up with any good advice myself right now… in my defense, it’s only 6 for us.

  21. Bernadette@http://mommaberna.blogspot.com/

    Happy Anniversary! You guys are too cute! Good luck to many more years together. I have been married 18 years and despite ups and downs, we are still growing strong. Your advice about the king size bed is spot on! We both sleep better which results in both of us being happier. Do I have any other words of advice? Laugh together a lot, listen to understand and not to respond, make fun of each other, once in a while take separate vacations.
    What makes me happy is when my husband cooks for me. And he does for breakfast almost every morning!

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